Practical guidance for a true man
In this book the reader will find practical guidance on how to achieve a real peace in the family, including set of histories, parables and the examples, written with simple and clear language for everyone to understand.
Rav Shalom Arusha - one of the most popular people in Israel. His classes , books, tapes know thousands of people . His books are best-sellers at once . They have been translated into many languages.
He came to me one man with a long list of what he does for his wife : every day it takes her time , asked what she needed , buy whatever she wants , and otherwise it spoils . It would seem that his wife should be the happiest of women. But despite his best efforts, there is no peace in the family : his wife eternally unhappy , sad all the time , complaining , irritable and empties into fits of rage. How can this be? To my great regret, this phenomenon is very familiar to me , and I immediately understood why he had no peace in the house ...
People who seek peace to the family , should be clearly understood that this is the most important thing in the world! Realizing this , and received instruction on how to achieve peace in the home, they will certainly succeed . But are still thinking that there are things more important , it will not work . And then do not help no books and lectures , no guidance and advice .
Warning , a promise and a blessing !
Among the rules of the family of the world , there is one principle that each spouse must assume that the world is in the house depends on him and only on him . Let them explore and executes the appropriate instruction to him , without engaging in part related to his or her spouse . Let no one think if they perform their duties, because otherwise he's always going to notice other people's shortcomings and make claims about anything that does not make the other party . This approach only leads to frustration , disputes and quarrels. And most importantly, it weakens the person and , most likely, is fraught with negligence in the performance of his part of the work to achieve peace in the family.
On the other hand, if you focus solely on his duties , comply with all as it should , without thinking , whether performed by the other, that will help a lot . Such a person will find peace of mind and will not indulge in bad thoughts about your spouse , and will continue to respect and love him (her) . In addition, he will perform his part of obligation, which, of course , will help to establish peace in the family. Most likely, it will move the other spouse and to comply with its obligations. The main thing - Heaven will certainly help to bring peace in a home where at least one person is making this so hard . And even more so if both spouses understand what their responsibilities and try to fulfill them as follows in the family is sure to set the desired peace.
The book "The Garden of the World" is entirely devoted to the instructions for the men and a woman can not extract anything useful out of it for themselves, that is reading this book, it not only does not help, but even hurt, and because women are strictly forbidden to read it. Only fear to enter into grievous sin of those who have no sense of responsibility, does not allow me to subject to excommunication every woman who reads this book . But I hope that this warning and explanation enough , and no sensible woman who appreciates her life and that of his household , will not even try to look into it , so as not to cause the greatest damage to the world in his home. If only prays that her husband could follow the advice of this book , and she could not fulfill its part of the obligations they have received and true peace in the family.
And I bless every woman who would get will not look into this book, and I promise the power of the Holy Torah that it is rewarded with a genuine peace in the house , long life , happiness and prosperity, will see children and grandchildren who will be righteous , and will receive a lot of the joy of his offspring , amen !
With the blessing of the Torah ,
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|Publisher||Mosdot Chut Shel Chessed|
|Author||Arush, Shalom, r.|